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A woman of worth is the crown of her husband,
but a disgraceful one is like rot in his bones.
– Proverbs 12:4
The presence of near and dear ones, reception parties – large or small, and honeymoons, etc., most certainly enhance the pleasures of the occasion and the joy of a wedding.
But what is the ultimate goal of a marriage from a man’s viewpoint?
Universally, all men wish for a perfect wife. But what does one mean by a “perfect wife“? What are the qualities needed to be an ideal spouse? Many women do not know about it though most of the qualities of a perfect wife are already built into them and develops as she grows up.
In India, Neeti Saara or Neeti Sastra is a popular collection of morals written by Baddena, a 13th century Telugu poet, believed to be a Chola prince named Bhadra Bhupalan.
Baddena sums the six noble virtues an ideal wife should have in a verse as:
‘కార్యేషు దాసి, కరణేషు మంత్రి, భోజ్యేషు మాతా, రూపేచ లక్ష్మీ, శయనేషు రంభ, క్షమయా ధరిత్రీ… and so on.
Transliteration:
“Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri, Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha, Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri, Shat dharmayukta, Kuladharma Pathni‘
Translation:
Karyeshu Dasi: Work like a maidservant.
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Karaneshu Mantri: Advice like a minister.
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Bhojeshu Mata: Feed like a mother.
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Shayaneshu Ramba: Please in bed like Rambha.
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Roopeshu Lakshmi: Beautiful like Goddess Lakshmi.
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Kshmayeshu Dharitri: Be patient like Earth.
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Shat dharma yuktah Kula dharma Patni: A woman who has these six virtues is a good housewife.This indeed is a tall order! I do not think any woman in the 21st century would qualify as a perfect wife by meeting these six criteria.
In this age of sex equality, the women argue that these verses written by a man are chauvinistic. What will happen if a woman expects the following six qualities in a man?
Bhogeshu Raja: Rich like a king.
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Vachaneshu Rama: Honest like Lord Rama.
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Chaturasya Krishna: Intellectually smart like Lord Krishna.
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Dhairyeshu Karna: Courageous like Karna.
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Roopecha Indra: Handsome like Lord Indra.
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Kaameshu Madana: Romantic like Madana Kamarajan.
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Shatdharmayuktha manadharma Ramana: A man who has these six virtues is the dear husband.
If you are a man, do you think you can qualify as a perfect husband possessing these six qualities?
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- Are you a Good Wife (Please treat this belongs to 1850 to 1950) (asbabu.com)
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I don’t know what a women thinks or a man thinks about the Neeti saara but one needs common sense to understand and realise, there are certain qualities which are not describable and which are the facts of the socialised society this calls for serious thinking, because the behaviour patron of the society to be kept in the thought and we could see the distortion in the society
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The one about husband is a befitting answer, had me laughing.Lol! True if men expect from wife some qualities, wife too had expectations. It should be both ways. Kudos to the author for such impartial article.!!!
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Haha awesome
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I pity your wife.
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Awesome article sir. In the 21st century, I can say there are still 50% of women would not qualify the virtues, however, I truely believe that non of the MAN will ever get married if the above becomes a criteria.
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