A Wedding Video and Sanctity of Marriage


By T. V. Antony Raj


Just ask yourself how many times you would have watched a wedding video of another person – once, twice, thrice? More often, we do not relish watching the wedding videos of relatives and friends, more than once, and that too, by feigning interest and hiding our boredom, merely to keep them happy.

One and a half million views on YouTube
One and a half million views on YouTube

Of late, I watched two wedding video clips of a (Jaffna?) Tamil Hindu couple Dilip and Mohana,  posted on YouTube, with mixed apprehension.

This wedding took place on February 12, 2012, at Sree Maha Mariamman Temple in Singapore. A week later, on February 19, Mohana Rajan, the bride, uploaded two video clips to YouTube.  The first clip shows the groom, Dilip Kumar, entering the wedding hall and the second shows the bride, Mohana Rajan’s entrance.

So far, as of March 19, 2012, the video clip of the entrance made by the groom has had 563,631 views and the video clip of the bride’s entrance has a record-breaking 1,536,902 views. Above all, a fan page created on Facebook under the name “Dilip Kumar Mohana Rajan” has scored hundreds of likes and many are talking about this wedding.

What’s so special about these videos? To answer this question you must first see them by clicking on the following images:

Video #1: Unique Entrance made by the Groom

Dilip Kumar with friends (from the Facebook page "Dilip Kumar Mohana Rajan").
Dilip Kumar with friends (from the Facebook page “Dilip Kumar Mohana Rajan”). Click the image to view video: “Unique Entrance made by the Groom – Karuppu perazhaga”.


Video # 2: Unique Entrance made by the Bride

Bride Mohana with friends (from the Facebook page "Dilip Kumar Mohana Rajan")
Bride Mohana with friends (from the Facebook page “Dilip Kumar Mohana Rajan”) Click the image to view video: “Unique Entrance made by the Bride”

In an interview given to OLI 96.8FM, Singapore, Mohana Rajan says that she is a Bharatha Natyam dancer and wanted to make her wedding a memorable one, and Dilip Kumar relented to her wish.

These two video clips have produced mixed reactions from viewers. In fact, there are around 144 comments for groom’s entrance and 626 comments for the bride’s entrance on YouTube.

Some praise the videos but many who observe religious traditions and wish to uphold and preserve the sanctity of marriage censure them.

One Facebook commentator says,

You guys had a grand fun entrance to your wedding and definitely put on a smile on more than a million faces.. What a blessed way to start your journey of togetherness. Have a blessed married life! (sic) “

Another person comments in YouTube:

Jaffna low caste culture is not considered as Tamil culture. Indian cinema culture destroying pure Jaffna Tamil culture. These kinds of people should be outcasted from society. Ada thuuuuuu. (sic)”

Another comment in YouTube reads:

I really liked the dancing.. just feeling bad that my Tamil culture is extremely ruined. You could have danced at your reception instead. You just forgot that it has a meaning to wear saari and all those traditional stuffs while during the wedding. You didn’t give any meaning to yours instead made it funny. I respect your freedom but think on your own. There is no need to do a Tamil traditional wedding if you don’t believe it or want to make fun of it. I respect my culture, so do many! (sic)”

You might be intending to ask me what I think about this incident.

Well, I am a Tamil and a Catholic and I believe in the holy sacrament and sanctity of marriage and I wish every Tamil to uphold the Tamil traditions. Not only Christians, but all religions agree and teach what I firmly believe.

This couple follows Hinduism, which like Buddhism is a way of life. Thousands of years ago Samskaras or sacraments were instituted in Hinduism to bring sanctity and stability to the lives of the people and to integrate their personalities with the society they were born in. The ancient seers and sages, endowed with the sacred knowledge, made it their bounden duty to transform the crude animal that we were, into Homo sapiens, with the help of the Samskaras. In Hindu rituals, life is a cycle. From birth to death a person undergoes 16 Samskaras, and marriage is one of the most important among them.

The rich, noble heritage of Hindu ethos proclaims that the sacrament of marriage impresses upon a person that earthly life should not be despised; rather it should consciously be accepted and raised to the level of spiritual existence.

Hindu families live all over the world. Though some live outside India, they all have strong ties with the Hindu culture and way of life as practised in India, and feel that they should, on such important occasions in life, such as marriage, perform the Samskara in the traditional Hindu way by availing the rich, noble heritage of Hindu thought, ritual and tradition.

Gatherings of near and dear ones, and reception parties – large or small, most certainly enhance the pleasures of the occasion and the joy of a wedding. However, the Hindu marriage ceremony like the Judaic, Christian, and Islamic, is an ennobling sacrament, and in my humble opinion, it is advisable to perform the marriage rites irrespective of religion in a serene atmosphere without much banal pomp and pageantry.


2 thoughts on “A Wedding Video and Sanctity of Marriage”

  1. (pls add this to my previous comment if possible) Ah! I didn’t realize this entrance was before they were married.. I could not have imagined dancing my way through the aisle to get married! I was far more introspective, emotional and yes, as about to receive a sacrament! But the feeling was different, one of elation, when I entered the reception hall and we were introduced as the Mr & Mrs! Then I definitely wanted to dance as I walked in with my brand new husband! My comments are still valid above: kudos to the couple for making it unique and special! One of the comments above says the sanctity, or rather specialty, of the saari.. Bharatanatiyam outfit is not much different from a saari! In fact I thought the dance poses were PERFECT for a saree wearing tamilian! Even if I can’t imagine dancing while wearing a saree… he he..


  2. Very interesting write up! As a Tamilian, Catholic, and woman myself, I was lured into viewing the video(s) and here are my thoughts regarding this:
    (I started with the bride’s video first) I did NOT find it obscene, rather a *unique* celebration of a special day! I found it annoying though that the bride was somewhat surrounded by men (one guy in the front and 2 in the back) instead of her ‘bridesmaids’ welcoming her with dance all the way into the hall; although if they happen to be her brothers/father/cousins who are “meant” to take care of her and watch out for her after she married, then I find that entirely meaningful & symbolic. Moreover, I’d have preferred if the groom was accompanied by his “thozhar” instead of by ladies.. that seemed a bit like a bachelor party with girls – which is considered uncouth even in the West.
    Moreover, as a sister of 3 girls and 2 brothers married the ‘traditional, catholic & tamilian way,” I have seen wedding ceremonies to be dreadfully hot & boring affairs, at least in the tropical zone that south India lies in.. I felt the worst for the bride who is generally weighed down with garlands and makeup that seems unnatural for the hot weather; with no smiles (because that is considered tradition).. wrapped in heavy silk and jewelry making her the hottest & most uncomfortable person in the room! Almost like a foreboding of what the bride is to bear once she enters the covenant of marriage: suffering! So I found this video to be uplifting: celebrating tradition combined with traditional ‘bharatanatiyam’ to make it *stand out*.
    Let me expand on *unique* and *stand out*: these are traditionally unIndian! To blend, to be like everyone else is celebrated in our culture. Is that Tamilian or is it Indian? As a person, I feel like expression of the arts and celebration with individuality is the best way, but that is my personal opinion.
    Lastly, if we are to keep a bit of history of the tamil tradition, we better allow the world to see the fun components it comprises of! If not, tamil, just like catholicism, may start to decline in this world of social media where everyone’s opinion counts!! Here in Austria, which is almost 100% catholic, the churches are empty!! Because it has become boring & uncool to the general public.. from what I hear, only churches that are willing to go above and beyond the ordinary & accepted practices attract young families and anyone below, say 65!! Similarly, such an old and rich culture as tamil may start its decline if folks like these don’t make an effort to show off its richness.. Kudos to the brave bride & groom who chose to be brave & different on their very special day! (Yet again, a solid tamilian personality trait!) Just my 2 cents..


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